I have, in fact, found some individuals through the SCA to whom I feel as close as I feel to some members of my family. This is my own personal experience, not to be confused with How It Always Is For Everyone. Also not at all the same thing as "the SCA is family".
There are just enough people floating around perpetuating that toxic meme, to be reeeeeeeally dangerous 8P
If I were not so hard beset these days, I would be curious about what prompted this, or who would be so delusional. SCA is not family. Some members I feel closer to than members of my own family, but none of that would hold up in any court. That statement and a Metrocard would give me a ride on the subway. *sheesh*
Nothing major: someone posted a huffy farewell to the SCA, and a three-events-old newcomer dignified it with a "Please don't go!"
Don't get me wrong, I'm glad HE's having a good time in the SCA. I'm glad it's all shiny and new and wonderful.
There are members of the SCA with whom I am close. There are members of the SCA with whom I can get along fine as long as they keep the hell away from me, and there's the spectrum in between.
The proper response to a huffy farewell is a cheerful "Don't let the door hit you in the arse on your way out!" as you go back to your sewing/fencing/cooking or whatever else it is you are doing at the moment.
"The proper response to a huffy farewell is to not dignify it with a response." That method works sometimes, but a dedicated flounce-llama will just come back and repeat the performance with the drama and volume turned up a level. The third or fourth time they do this tends to cause damage to the furniture... My method lets them know that you are aware of their departure and think it's a Good Thing. It may even get them laughed at and flounce-llamas hate that.
Actually the SCA is rather like family: there are those with whom I will happily spend time drinking beer but don't want around if I need to achieve anything; those with whom I work well but in a social setting we rub each other up the wrong way; and also those that I hope only to meet at weddings and funerals. (And just a precious few that I regard as the best people I know)
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gurdymonkey) wrote2009-09-10 10:39 am
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Preach it!
The SCA is a big enough tent that some people can find "fellow travelers," or their "tribe"--but the SCA as one big family? Emphatically not.
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PS...I HAS UR HEADMONKEYZ!!! Will trade for happy happy sushi time.
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I actually winced as I read this.
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Oy Vay...another believer in Geek Social Fallacies?
There are just enough people floating around perpetuating that toxic meme, to be reeeeeeeally dangerous 8P
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Or an acknowledgment of/respect for her putative s.o.'s time, commitment and possible "sweat equity".
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Don't get me wrong, I'm glad HE's having a good time in the SCA. I'm glad it's all shiny and new and wonderful.
There are members of the SCA with whom I am close. There are members of the SCA with whom I can get along fine as long as they keep the hell away from me, and there's the spectrum in between.
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That method works sometimes, but a dedicated flounce-llama will just come back and repeat the performance with the drama and volume turned up a level. The third or fourth time they do this tends to cause damage to the furniture...
My method lets them know that you are aware of their departure and think it's a Good Thing. It may even get them laughed at and flounce-llamas hate that.
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(And just a precious few that I regard as the best people I know)