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You have got to be kidding me.
Dealing with criticism is part of life. Dealing with failure is part of life. Learning to cope with one's imperfections is an important and necessary skill. I never got suicidal over red ink. I thought about why that red ink was there and how to make less red ink happen on the next assignment.
But
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Did my parents complain to my teachers about their red ink damaging my fragile self esteem? HELL NO! They said, "Load her up. She needs to get up to speed. Give her extra problems." I spent my afternoons chained to the dining room table until every last assignment was done - and my parents refused to help with them. It was my job, not theirs.
Did I attempt suicide over it? Did I hate my parents for it? Did I plot the demise of my teachers for Being So MEAN? No, obviously. I loathed math with a soul searing passion: so much so that I stunned the head of my high school math department by appearing in his Math 4 class my senior year. "But you hate this stuff," Mr. McDonnell said. "Yes," I said."In fact, I hate it so much, I'm taking your class so I won't have to take it in college." I passed with a hard fought C, my math pre-requisite duly satisfied. Then I went to Rutgers and took 6 credits of astronomy to satisfy my science requirements - without ever having taken physics. Two semesters of struggle (in addition to the near suicidal reading load of a history major), and dammit, I passed.
Mammas, teach your babies to FIGHT when they see red. They'll thank you later.
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Date: 2008-12-10 12:09 am (UTC)Ack.
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Date: 2008-12-10 01:28 am (UTC)I am so sick to death of parents trying to teach their kids that the world owes them. I'd much rather see kids taught to be self sufficient, able to fight their own battles and take care of themselves.
Gah!
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Date: 2008-12-10 02:12 am (UTC)As for red pen, I don't think they're saying teachers shouldn't mark errors, but only that they should use some other color. It still seems a bit silly, but the reason teachers use red is that it is VISIBLE. It is visible because it has high contrast both with black or blue ink and with white paper. Any other color that jumps off the page at you and hits you in the eye (i.e. is visible) would probably get the same accusation (of being "too aggressive"). However, I can see that subconscious imagery attached to the color red (i.e. violence, blood) might make it have a different (and probably unintended) effect than, say, green or purple or hot pink. Now that not as many student assignments get turned in handwritten (which often means blue ink) any of those, or bright turquoise for that matter, would probably work as well as red.
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Date: 2008-12-10 06:12 am (UTC)no subject
Date: 2008-12-10 03:49 am (UTC)**headdesk**
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Date: 2008-12-10 02:12 pm (UTC)