That chip you think I have on my shoulder

[gurdymonkey]

There's a great quote from Christine de Pisan:

"Thus, always saving both her own honor and her lord's, the good lady will not rest until she has spoken, or has had someone else speak to those who have committed the misdeed in question, alternately soothing and reproving them."
In the interest of setting some things straight vis a vis yesterday's posting, I have seen and known a great many wonderful people who just happen to have SCA peerages. I have also seen and known and borne the brunt of some incredibly shitty treatment via people who just happen to have SCA peerages ( and no, you do not get to hear who they are or what they did).

You know what? Peers are just people who have to pay the same price I do for lunch at Subway. Sometimes this means someone has to be reminded of that.  Or have pointed out to him/her how something perfectly innocent appears not to be to those outside the "I Assumed You Knew" radius.

I've looked around at various people who engaged in mentor/student relationships. Some worked very well. Some were the sort of disasters involving belt flinging and cries of "Never again."

I'd much rather assign my own homework based on what interests me at any given time. I'm an adult. I really don' t feel I need someone to fill that function for me.

Why should I limit myself to picking one brain when I can pick brains all over the Known World and beyond? I have "Go To" people for almost every occasion. I think this rocks.

Do I need an advocate in a peerage council?  Dear Lord, why?  I'm not on a career path. I'm pursuing a hobby.  If anybody sees and cares, great. If not, great.

(What do you mean, this isn't the Society for Creative Anarchy?)

Comments

[duchessletitia.livejournal.com]

Just so you know, not all of us assign homework. I actually think that it confines people and does not allow them the latitude to do their own thing. My current (and only) apprentice and I have an agreement where I will help and encourage her but she is totally free to talk to whom she wants and learn what she wants.

Please do not think that I am saying you need to be in a relationship with a peer. I just wanted to give you my take on how the relationship should work.

[gurdymonkey.livejournal.com]

Sure, every relationship is different. I just know how I like to work.

[bovil.livejournal.com]

Peers are a lot like academic administrators. Academics are promoted to administration for being good instructors. The new job, though, requires an unrelated skill-set that hasn't ever been evaluated.

Some peers turn out to be great mentors and advocates. Some peers never quite get comfortable with their new rank. Some you just chalk up to experience.

[aeddie.livejournal.com]

Some worked very well. Some were the sort of disasters involving belt flinging and cries of "Never again."

I've had both.

[gailsedotes.livejournal.com]

>Do I need an advocate in a peerage council? Dear Lord, why? I'm not on a career path. I'm pursuing a hobby. If anybody sees and cares, great. If not, great.
you'd be natural at Kentwell!

[gurdymonkey.livejournal.com]

Having visited your profile to find out what "Kentwell" actually is...

What? You want me to wear Tudor? Nooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooooo!!!!

[gailsedotes.livejournal.com]

lmao! you don't have to be a galleon! unlike myladyswardrobe (who is def not a galleon) most of us are hard working peasants! and it is not so much a fashion show but working together playing at this hooby - a three week long in character demo with all the props. and a lot of like minded (maaaaaad) people :)