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gurdymonkeyAs in "harassment."
And "hazing."
As mentioned in a previous post, I recently had to deal with some stalker-like behavior. That the party in question is probably harmless and that the situation was dealt with in a safe and reasonably polite manner is not the point. The point is that I had to deal with it at all in an environment which is supposed to be "safe."
Anyone ever been touched without your permission by someone whose only excuse for doing so is that we're all SCA and you therefore should hold still fortheir friendly little back rub being groped? One party who tried it with me was told by me in embarrassingly loud and public tones to cease and desist.
Ever tell someone to stop doing something and have them persist because they think it's funny? Like the guy who decided to find out if I was ticklish and no amount of verbal protest or physical resistance short of whipping off one of my Birkenstocks and whaling him across the forearm with it as hard as I could was going to stop him. He had the nerve to be shocked and hurt too.
I'm willing to bet that the people who don't see what all the fuss is about on the alleged lifting incident reported this week on SCA-West have never been in a like position, regardless of gender.
And "hazing."
As mentioned in a previous post, I recently had to deal with some stalker-like behavior. That the party in question is probably harmless and that the situation was dealt with in a safe and reasonably polite manner is not the point. The point is that I had to deal with it at all in an environment which is supposed to be "safe."
Anyone ever been touched without your permission by someone whose only excuse for doing so is that we're all SCA and you therefore should hold still for
Ever tell someone to stop doing something and have them persist because they think it's funny? Like the guy who decided to find out if I was ticklish and no amount of verbal protest or physical resistance short of whipping off one of my Birkenstocks and whaling him across the forearm with it as hard as I could was going to stop him. He had the nerve to be shocked and hurt too.
I'm willing to bet that the people who don't see what all the fuss is about on the alleged lifting incident reported this week on SCA-West have never been in a like position, regardless of gender.
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Date: 2009-11-12 06:31 am (UTC)Where are we, high school? That's pathetic.
Makes me want to kick people in the goolies.
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Date: 2009-11-13 10:29 pm (UTC)Yes.
I've noticed an awful lot of social behaviors that i thought i'd left behind after high school, but, no. And i don't just mean among the young. I see them with the old and experienced as well.
I had a personal experience during which i kept thinking, this can't be happening, this isn't high school, we're adults now. Well, i was wrong. It happened.
And it wasn't just once, and it isn't just me.
I imagine it's true throughout the SCA - it is, after all, composed of humans. I'm sure individuals are more adult, and perhaps some households, but in general, it reminds me sooooo much, too much, of high school.
The biggest difference is that with high school, one sees and interacts with the same people 5 days a week, and often on weekends, too. In the SCA, one often doesn't see people except at events, unless one is best buds. So the dimension of time and space makes altering the nature of interactions that much more... uh... complex.