Reason #46 why you don't see me duct taped to a peer.....

[gurdymonkey]

The "Look What My Apprentice Did" post has hit two of my LJ groups today.

I went back and read the thing twice and you know what? She never told us her apprentice's name! Why? I mean, really. Why?????

This is yet another of the anarchistic reasons - and I have many - why I have never entered into a formal relationship with an SCA peer.

My work (or current lack thereof) reflects upon ME, thank you very much. I have earned renown of a sort without needing an advocate.

So no one gets to brag about me.

Then again, no one gets to complain to their cronies that I'm not living up to their expectations. Why should I live up to someone else's expectations? Isn't this MY hobby?

Pardon me while I go poke a laurel in the eye with a sharp stick.

Comments

Re: its just this kind of attitude that really irritates me

[oonaghsown.livejournal.com]

Lolly and I have spoken, she is still very upset by these posts, and wanted me to make some things clear.

She does not want to be a peer. She wants to learn from me some of the things I can teach her. She wants my frindship more than the peer relationship, and so do I.

I agree with the sentiment expressed in your non peer advice.

There are things that are not obvious here.

Firstly, that the post gurdymonkey made was found by her and upset her so much that she phoned me in tears.

Secondly, that I do not presume to have any particular control over my apprentices. They each have their own free wills, and are free to express themselves as they see fit. Her 'yelling' was out of frusteration and hurt at what had been a very posative experience for her.

Thridly, are all, intellegent, opinionated, wonderful women. I stand by them, and their actions and deeds. If I find that I am no longer able to do so as a peer then I would offer them a 'without predjudice' release from our arangement. As a friend, I would discuss such matters.

From your post it seems that you have some a poorly relationship with peers in your neck of the woods. It is unwise to assume that all peers, and/or apprentice/ aurel relationships are the same.

These posts on gurdymonkey's LJ have undone many weeks of encouragement and suport that I and my other apprentices offered Lolly about her work. In convincing her that there are people out there who really were suportive and not uncesessarialy critical.

The suggestion that she now post to dress diaries (not by you) is completely out of the question for her now.

In short the original post and subsiquent responces lifter my friends spirits. This series of posts hurt her. I am sorely disapointed for her and upset that this has happened.

Re: its just this kind of attitude that really irritates me

[ayeshadream.livejournal.com]

That is truly sad, and she is truly talented.

I hope that eventually this hurt can be healed and that she realizes that not everyone is so quick to judge.

I'm getting apprenticed at 12th night, and I'm extreamly excited about it. The reason why I chose the Laurel I did, is because we're great friends- and that weighed at least much if not more than all the things I can learn from her.